A long time ago I heard someone describe integrity as “what you do when no one else watching.” Ever since that day, that has been my interpretation of what integrity is. Are you who you say you are? Do you do as you say and say as you do? Is who you are in public, who you are behind closed doors?
I read an article recently written by Holly Hill the Australian Sugarbabe, who wrote and is sharing her theory of Negotiated Infidelity. It’s basically where a couple has an agreement to not be monogamous. It allows people to have a relationship with each other but have sex outside the relationship. I found this concept to be fascinating because isn’t the purpose of being in a relationship to not be intimate with other people? If you want to have sex with other people then why not just be single?
To me, negotiated infidelity would be out of integrity. A romantic relationship is a romantic relationship because it’s monogamous. However, other people clearly don’t feel the same. But I do ask you, what’s in your integrity? What does the word mean to you and do you live by it?
Today we are living in a world where public figures like Tiger Woods, and Jesse James, cheat on their wives and blame it on sex addiction. Is it sex addiction or just poor judgment backed up by little personal integrity? We live in a world where aBernie Madoff pulls off a $50 billion ponzi scheme and multi-billion dollar companies go under because of fraud or misrepresentation. Entire industries are wiped out because of unscrupulous activities, and those activities are often carried out by the leaders themselves. Where is the integrity? If we raised our own personal level of integrity would these things still happen?
Where does integrity begin? Does it start with our government, our role models, our school system, our family, our spouse, or does it start with ourselves? To what standard do we hold ourselves? If each and every one of us has integrity and live by it and require it from those around us would those things still be happening in our world?
Let me leave you with this… what does integrity mean to you, and are you living up to it?
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No matter how you rang in the new year, there is no better time than the first day of the year to get started on making this an unforgettable, unstoppable year.
Most people set New Years Resolutions on New Years Eve, unfortunately they are quick to be forgotten by the end of the month… if it takes that long. What can you do to make this year different?Here are a few tools and tips to give you the edge and make what you want happen.
1. Write your goal down. Don’t just say "I’m going to do blank."Say, "I’m DOING blank."
2. Tell everyone you know.Make a list starting right now of all the people you can share your goal with. Then call, email, text, twitter or whatever else you want but tell anyone and everyone you know about what you are DOING!
3. Create a vision board.I do this every New Year’s Eve and now have vision board parties on New’s Year’s.Cut out pictures of what you want and post them where you can see them often.If you want to be an author, cut out a book cover and put your name and face on it.If you want a lean, 10% body fat, size 8 body, or 34 inch waist, cut out a picture and put your face on it.Make it real and see it so you can be it!
There you go, three simple steps to making what you want, real. Remember, you have to make a plan and take action and these first three steps will start your journey.
Have an extraordinary year! Now get to it!
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I recently had the privilege of interviewing Dr. John Demartini author of From Stress to Success. Who can’t relate to that? In this day and age where just about everyone is surrounded by stressors, wouldn’t it be nice to find a way to use that stress for something positive? Perhaps we can channel that stressful energy into our business to help get it off the ground and make it fly. Dr. Demartini has 31 useful tools and tips that can help turn your stress into success. If you apply just one a day, in 31 days you will have less stress, and more success.
The first Five Secrets of Success that Dr. Demartini outlines in his book are:
1. Write and read your goals.
2. Clear away your goals obstacles.
3. Prioritize your activities.
4. Act on top priorities.
5. Visualize your success.
This is a really beautiful poem that I think everyone can learn from. Enjoy
This is a poem written by a teenager with cancer.She wants to see how many people get her poem.
It is quite the poem Please pass it on.
This poem was written by a terminally ill young girl in a New York Hospital .
It was sent by a medical doctor -Make sure to read what is in the closing statement AFTER THE POEM.
SLOW DANCE
Have you ever watched kids
On a merry-go-round?
Or listened to the rain
Slapping on the ground?
Ever followed a butterfly’s erratic flight?
Or gazed at the sun into the fading light?
You better slow down.
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.
Do you run through each day
On the fly?
When you ask How are you?
Do you hear the reply?
When the day is done
Do you lie in your bed
With the next hundred chores
Running through your head?
You’d better slow down
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.
Ever told your child,
We’ll do it tomorrow?
And in your haste,
Not see his sorrow?
Ever lost touch,
Let a good friendship die
Cause you never had time
To call and say,’Hi’
You’d better slow down.
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.
When you run so fast to get somewhere
You miss half the fun of getting there.
When you worry and hurry through your day,
It is like an unopened gift….Thrown away.
Life is not a race…..
Do take it slower
Hear the music
Before the song is over.
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E-MAILS ARE TRACKED TO OBTAIN THE TOTAL
COUNT.
Dear All:
PLEASE pass this mail on to everyone you know -even to those you don’t know! It is the request of a special girl who will soon leave this worlddue to cancer.
This young girl has 6 months left to live, and as her dying wish, she wanted to send a letter telling everyone to live their life to the fullest, since she never will.
She’ll never make it to prom, graduate from high school,or get married and have afamily of her
own.
By you sending this to as many people as possible, you can give her and her family a little hope, because with every namethat this is sent to, The American Cancer Society will donate 3 cents per name to her treatment and recovery plan. One guy sent this to 500 people! So I know that we can at least send it to 5 or 6. It’s not even your money, just your time!
PLEASE PASS ON AS A LAST REQUEST.
Dr. Dennis Shields, Professor
Department of Developmental and Molecular Biology
As an entrepreneur, most will face as some point, and possibly many times, the desire to quit. Starting your own business can be a long and tumultuous ride. However, it can also be one of the most valuable and rewarding experiences of your life. It’s probably safe to assume that if you decided to leave or avoid Corporate America to be your own boss that you choose to start a business doing something you had a passion for or interest in. Even when you do what you love, you may still feel like tossing in the towel when times get tough. To help you through those tough times, we have provided five tips to help you stay motivated and on your path to success.
Always have something you are working towards, a goal on the horizon. Having something to aim for can be enough to get you through just about anything.
Know when to back away. Many times when you are pushing and pushing and things just don’t seem to budge, you may need to just walk away from what you are doing for a little while. This can be difficult I know because sometimes you just want to muscle through it. But if you find that you are getting increasingly frustrated and things just aren’t going the way you want, then it is time to take a break. Take a walk, listen to your favorite music, call a positive friend, go to the gym. You know what things make you feel good so have a few things in mind that you can do when you need to get away from your work.
Remember why you started in the first place. Sometimes when we are frustrated and things just aren’t going our way, it’s good to take a deep breath and ask yourself, “Why did I want to do this in the first place?” There was some reason that you chose this path, remembering it can help keep you on it.
Throw a temper tantrum. If enough is enough and you are fed up to the gills, throw a fit. Most of us did this when we were kids, and it’s a great way to release that pent up frustration from our minds and our bodies. Get a pillow and beat the poop out of it. If you need to use your voice scream as loud as you can until you feel better (although if you are in a place where others can hear you, and you don’t won’t anyone to come running, I recommend screaming into the pillow) If you have a gym or place that has a punching bag use it. Getting the feeling out of your body can be a great release and open your mind at the same time.
Lend a helping hand. Getting out of your negative space and giving assistance to someone else can give you a great high to get you back on track. Think of someone you know that could use a hand at something. Check with a charity or something of the like and volunteer. Helping others helps everyone.
I hope these tips give you the strength and determination to get past those rough patches. Remember tough times happen for everyone, it’s what you do to get through them that says a lot about who you are, and what your made of.
Why is it that some people get to wake up and do what they love while others get up to the grind? How does one find their passion in life, much less get paid for it?
Surely, once upon a time you knew your passion. You know, that thing you did, that when you did it hours passed by in what felt like minutes. I believe everyone has a passion or many of them. The trick gets to be how to you find it if you lost it in life and how do you make money at it too?
The first trick is to find that lost passion. There are some questions you can ask yourself to remember yours. Things like, “If tomorrow were my last day on Earth, what would I wish I had done?” Or, "Name one thing I do that makes hours go by in what feels like minutes?" Or maybe, "If I had unlimited time, money, and resources, and could do anything I wanted, and would not fail, what would it be?” (for a worksheet on how to find your passion, email inspirational expert, Sharmen Lane at shar@sharspeaks.com)
After you find your passion the question becomes, how can you make money at it? Well, here are a couple of examples that can help you think outside the box to make your passion your profession.
One woman I know loved to read. So she started getting paid to proofread books for publishers. Another example is a person who loved to knit. She could do it in her sleep. So she wrote a “how to” ebook and created a website where for a few bucks people could buy and instantly download it. Then she started to hold six week classes at a local yarn store. Last example is of a man who was a personal trainer. He knew he could make more money if he could find a way to train people without being in front of them. He put together instructional videos and again made them available for download on his website.
These are just three examples of ways to turn a passion into a profession. Look outside the box and think of creative ways to make money at your passion.
What is rejection? Isn’t it really just some big scary thing that we have created in our minds? Is rejection really all the bad? When it comes to business in the end it all comes down to sales. If people aren’t buying your product or service then you aren’t closing the sale and you likely aren’t making any money. Anyone who has even been in sales knows that selling is a numbers game. The more you ask the more sales you will make. The bad news is that the more you ask the more rejection you will be faced with and you have probably heard that it takes about 10 no’s to get to a yes.
The good news is, the faster you get through those no’s the sooner you will get that yes. So, how do you reject, rejection? Change your perspective. Be excited every time you get a no because that means you are that much closer to a yes. Put yourself out there. What’s the worst someone can say? No? Okay, that’s not so bad, is it? Sure you would rather they say yes, but if they don’t you can simply move on.
Many times people will let the fear of rejection stop them from taking action to get what they want. Rejection is a fake fear. What is a fake fear? A real fear is something that could cause you physical harm or death. A fake fear doesn’t. A fake fear is something that only exists in your head. If you are rejected you are not going to end up in the hospital or die. So what do you have to lose? Absolutely nothing!
From now on see rejection as a good thing. The sooner you get through those no’s the closer you are to getting that yes.
I know more people today than ever before that are looking for that special someone. Well if you want to meet the man or woman of your dreams then you need to put yourself out there. You need to take that NO FEAR approach to dating.
No fear rule #1. Dont take anything personally! Dating is a numbers game, just like sales. I get excited every time I have a bad date because I believe dates are like sales calls… it takes 10 no’s to get a yes. It takes 10 bad, to get a good.
No fear rule #2- Have no fear. Who cares if you get rejected?!? I believe there are two types of fear. Real fear and fake fear. Real fear can cause you physical harm or death. Fake fear doesnt, it only exists in your head. I once approached a man and said, "Excuse me, but I couldnt help but over hear your conversation and I find you intriguing. You seem like someone I would like to get to know better." I reached out to give him my business card and he looked me up and down and said "Sorry I only date beautiful women." I turned and went back to my girlfriend and said "YES! One more down, only 3 more to go!"
I have these and many other philosophies in my book, The 7 Secrets to Create Your Fate. I give you the tools, tips and strategies to create the life you want.
Catch my interview on KLAV 1230am or online at http://www.klav1230am.com with Mr. Z! We're talking about Creating a power year! Mon Jan10 5am PT 2011-01-07
