Successful people understand the difference between can’t and won’t.  There is a lot of power in words.  They can strengthen and empower us.  They can build an army or start a war.  Think about the words you use to describe yourself, and what you are capable of.  Do your words say victim or victor?

Think about the words can’t and won’t.  How often do you say I can’t when you really mean won’t?  Can’t means that you are physically not capable while won’t means that you are choosing not to. 

I can’t go up to a perfect stranger and introduce myself.  Yes you can. You are physically capable of walking up to someone, sticking out your hand and saying “Hi, I’m Sharmen Lane, what’s your name?”  Many will say, “I can’t do that.”  Yes you can.  You may have to dig deep and find the courage in you, but you are physically capable of it.

In business or your personal life the words you use can make a powerful statement.  I once had a woman in sales tell me she couldn’t walk in to potential client offices and ask them for business.  That’s when it dawned on me that there is a tremendous difference between can’t and won’t.  I responded to this woman with “You can’t. So you are telling me that you are not physically capable of walking to the door, sticking out your hand, grabbing the knob, turning it, pulling the door open and walking through the opening?’ Of course with resistance she replied with “Well, yes I can do THAT”.  That is the difference between can’t and won’t.

This isn’t to say it will be easy.  It may be difficult.  It may require some extreme mental discipline, or having a talk with yourself to make you do something you previously “couldn’t”.  I never said it was easy, and sometimes you will have to psych your self up and literally force yourself do it. But you can. As soon as you take responsibility and the empowering position you will be amazed at the things you can and will do.

The next time you hear yourself saying "I can’t…” stop for a moment and ask yourself, it is really that I can’t, that I’m physically not capable, or is it that I won’t?  If you determine that you could but you choose not too then it’s wont.  At that point you can choose to change your way of thinking, step up to the plate and do it!

Are you looking for change in your life? Are you looking to go to the next level?  Are you stuck in a rut?  Do you have no idea what you want, or if you do know what you want, do you have no idea how to go about getting it?  If you answered yes to any of these questions then you need Average2Awesome Life coaching.  Go to Average2awesomelife.com to find out more.  Start now and create the life you want!

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By Success Expert and Inspirational Expert Sharmen Lane

Guest:Tony Mitchell and Michael Losier

This is new year and new times are to come. How would you like to create the year you want? Today we are going to show you how with our two experts. First is Tony Mitchell a Silva Method Expert who is going to tell us how to use the Silva Method to create the life you want. Then Michael Losier Best Selling Author of The Law of Attraction will share with us his tools to attract what we want and not what we don’t.

 

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Today we are going to answer some of the most commonly asked questions that have been asked y email or mail but have not been answered on the air.  We figured if one person is willing to write in about it, there are likely manymore of you that have the same question and just haven’t asked it for one reason or another.  So, sit back, relax and listen for the answer to your question.

 

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Today we are going to have a lesson in CPR.  Choices and Personal Responsibility.  I think this time of year is great for looking over the past year, evaluating it and determining what we like and dislike about who, what, and where we are and how our choices got us there.  The best way to make a change is to take personal responsibility for where we are and how we got there. If you change your choices, you change your life.

 

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Guest:Ethan Ewing and Kim Kiyosaki

Topic:  Tough Times Create Tough People

 

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This week we are going to be talking to Jessica Sabatini, a Results Coaching System Certified Life reDirection Expert.  She has designed The Prosper With Purpose System, a set of strategies based in neuroscience and metaphysics for bringing clarity to your life’s direction and purpose, laser blasting blocks that have been holding you back for years, tapping into your joy and flow of life, and making huge strides towards your beautifully ambitious life goals.  We will be showing you how to create a life of meaning, confidence, joy and success.

 

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