What’s in your integrity?

By Sharmen Lane

A long time ago I heard someone describe integrity as “what you do when no one else watching.”  Ever since that day, that has been my interpretation of what integrity is.  Are you who you say you are?  Do you do as you say and say as you do?  Is who you are in public, who you are behind closed doors?

I read an article recently written by Holly Hill the Australian Sugarbabe, who wrote and is sharing her theory of Negotiated Infidelity.  It’s basically where a couple has an agreement to not be monogamous. It allows people to have a relationship with each other but have sex outside the relationship.  I found this concept to be fascinating because isn’t the purpose of being in a relationship to not be intimate with other people?  If you want to have sex with other people then why not just be single?

To me, negotiated infidelity would be out of integrity.  A romantic relationship is a romantic relationship because it’s monogamous.  However, other people clearly don’t feel the same.  But I do ask you, what’s in your integrity? What does the word mean to you and do you live by it?

Today we are living in a world where public figures like Tiger Woods, and Jesse James, cheat on their wives and blame it on sex addiction. Is it sex addiction or just poor judgment backed up by little personal integrity?  We live in a world where a Bernie Madoff pulls off a $50 billion ponzi scheme and multi-billion dollar companies go under because of fraud or misrepresentation. Entire industries are wiped out because of unscrupulous activities, and those activities are often carried out by the leaders themselves. Where is the integrity? If we raised our own personal level of integrity would these things still happen?

Where does integrity begin? Does it start with our government, our role models, our school system, our family, our spouse, or does it start with ourselves? To what standard do we hold ourselves? If each and every one of us has integrity and live by it and require it from those around us would those things still be happening in our world?

Let me leave you with this… what does integrity mean to you, and are you living up to it?

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By Success Expert and Motivational Speaker, Sharmen Lane

Hello World and Happy New Year!

No matter how you rang in the new year, there is no better time than the first day of the year to get started on making this an unforgettable, unstoppable year.

Most people set New Years Resolutions on New Years Eve, unfortunately they are quick to be forgotten by the end of the month… if it takes that long. What can you do to make this year different?  Here are a few tools and tips to give you the edge and make what you want happen.

1. Write your goal down. Don’t just say "I’m going to do blank."  Say, "I’m DOING blank."

2. Tell everyone you know.  Make a list starting right now of all the people you can share your goal with. Then call, email, text, twitter or whatever else you want but tell anyone and everyone you know about what you are DOING!

3. Create a vision board.  I do this every New Year’s Eve and now have vision board parties on New’s Year’s.  Cut out pictures of what you want and post them where you can see them often.  If you want to be an author, cut out a book cover and put your name and face on it.  If you want a lean, 10% body fat, size 8 body, or 34 inch waist, cut out a picture and put your face on it.  Make it real and see it so you can be it!

There you go, three simple steps to making what you want, real.  Remember, you have to make a plan and take action and these first three steps will start your journey.

Have an extraordinary year! Now get to it!

For more information visit ww.sharspeaks.com or email shar@sharspeaks.com. Also keep an eye out for my latest book, Giving You the WOW and the HOW, due out in early 2010!

This is a really beautiful poem that I think everyone can learn from. Enjoy

This is a poem written by a teenager with cancer.She wants to see how many people get her poem.
It is quite the poem Please pass it on.

This poem was written by a terminally ill young girl in a New York Hospital .

It was sent by a medical doctor -Make sure to read what is in the closing statement AFTER THE POEM.

SLOW DANCE

Have you ever watched kids
On a merry-go-round?

Or listened to the rain
Slapping on the ground?

Ever followed a butterfly’s erratic flight?
Or gazed at the sun into the fading light?

You better slow down.
Don’t dance so fast.

Time is short.
The music won’t last.

Do you run through each day
On the fly?

When you ask How are you?
Do you hear the reply?

When the day is done
Do you lie in your bed

With the next hundred chores
Running through your head?

You’d better slow down
Don’t dance so fast.

Time is short.
The music won’t last.

Ever told your child,
We’ll do it tomorrow?

And in your haste,
Not see his sorrow?

Ever lost touch,
Let a good friendship die

Cause you never had time
To call and say,’Hi’

You’d better slow down.
Don’t dance so fast.

Time is short.
The music won’t last.

When you run so fast to get somewhere
You miss half the fun of getting there.

When you worry and hurry through your day,
It is like an unopened gift….Thrown away.

Life is not a race…..
Do take it slower

Hear the music
Before the song is over.

FORWARDED
E-MAILS ARE TRACKED TO OBTAIN THE TOTAL
COUNT.

Dear All:
PLEASE pass this mail on to everyone you know -even to those you don’t know! It is the request of a special girl who will soon leave this worlddue to cancer.

This young girl has 6 months left to live, and as her dying wish, she wanted to send a letter telling everyone to live their life to the fullest, since she never will.

She’ll never make it to prom, graduate from high school,or get married and have afamily of her
own.

By you sending this to as many people as possible, you can give her and her family a little hope, because with every namethat this is sent to, The American Cancer Society will donate 3 cents per name to her treatment and recovery plan. One guy sent this to 500 people! So I know that we can at least send it to 5 or 6. It’s not even your money, just your time!

PLEASE PASS ON AS A LAST REQUEST.

Dr. Dennis Shields, Professor
Department of Developmental and Molecular Biology

1300 Morris Park Avenue
Bronx , New York 10461

by Sales and Success Speaker Sharmen Lane

I know more people today than ever before that are looking for that special someone.  Well if you want to meet the man or woman of your dreams then you need to put yourself out there. You need to take that NO FEAR approach to dating. 

No matter what product or service is, if you are not staying in touch with your past clients someone else is.  I’m amazed at the number of people who don’t make contact with their past clients.  It happens at just about every company I’ve ever known or worked with.
 
The people you are selling to are relationships and like all relationships they need attention.  How many times have you been disappointed to have lost a new sale to an old customer because you didn’t stay in touch?  Maybe you don’t know because you have never made contact with a past client before.  You already have a relationship, they’ve purchased from you before.  If you don’t stay in touch with your past clients you are missing many sales opportunities.

There is at least one reason every month to stay in touch with past clients. 
For example:

January- New Years and Martin Luther King Day
February- Valentine’s Day and President’s Day
March- St. Patrick’s Day, Daylight Savings begins
April- First day of spring, Easter, Passover
May- Memorial Day and Mother’s Day
June- Father’s Day and the first day of summer
July- Independence Day
August- End of summer, back to school
September- Labor Day, first day of autumn
October- Halloween and Columbus Day
November- Daylight Savings Ends and Thanksgiving
December- Christmas, Hanukah, First day of winter

Every month you have at least one reason to drop a note in the mail or send an email to say hello to your past clients.  Make it a point to stay in touch with your past clients and you will grow your business.

No matter what business you’re in, there are certain things you need to do in order to be successful.  The first thing on that list is staying in contact with your past clients.

Surely, you’ve heard the phrase, out of sight, out of mind.  That rings all too true when it comes to being a success in business.  Just seeing a client one time usually isn’t enough.  Statistics say that it often takes seven times to be in front of a prospect before they become a customer.  Once they do become a customer the real work begins.  If you forget about your clients, your clients will forget about you.  However, most people are surprised when they go to renew a contract or sell something new, that the past client is now doing business with someone else. 

Stay in touch with your past clients.  One thing and one thing for certain, if you’re not talking to your past clients someone else is. 

The people you’re selling to are relationships.  Like all relationships they need attention.  How many times have you been disappointed to have lost a new sale to an old customer because you didn’t stay in touch?  Maybe you don’t know because you have never made contact with a past client before.  You already have a relationship, they’ve purchased from you before.  If you don’t stay in touch with your past clients you are missing many opportunities.

There is at least one reason every month to stay in touch with past clients.  For example:

January- New Years and Martin Luther King Day
February- Valentine’s Day and President’s Day
March- St. Patrick’s Day, Daylight Savings begins
April- First day of spring, Easter, Passover
May- Memorial Day and Mother’s Day
June- Father’s Day and the first day of summer
July- Independence Day
August- End of summer, back to school
September- Labor Day, first day of autumn
October- Halloween and Columbus Day
November- Daylight Savings Ends and Thanksgiving
December- Christmas, Hanukah, First day of winter

Every month you have at least one reason to drop a note in the mail or send an email to say hello to your past clients.  Remember, history repeats itself, so it may as well be on your terms.

By Success Expert and Inspirational Expert Sharmen Lane

Guest:Tony Mitchell and Michael Losier

This is new year and new times are to come. How would you like to create the year you want? Today we are going to show you how with our two experts. First is Tony Mitchell a Silva Method Expert who is going to tell us how to use the Silva Method to create the life you want. Then Michael Losier Best Selling Author of The Law of Attraction will share with us his tools to attract what we want and not what we don’t.

 

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by Motivational Speaker and Author Sharmen Lane

This week we are going to be talking to Jessica Sabatini, a Results Coaching System Certified Life reDirection Expert.  She has designed The Prosper With Purpose System, a set of strategies based in neuroscience and metaphysics for bringing clarity to your life’s direction and purpose, laser blasting blocks that have been holding you back for years, tapping into your joy and flow of life, and making huge strides towards your beautifully ambitious life goals.  We will be showing you how to create a life of meaning, confidence, joy and success.

 

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Don’t miss Sharmen Lane on Lifetime Television Thursday November 6, 7am PT/ET 6am Central