Motivational Minute- Once your choose hope, anything is possible. Christopher Reeve

If you fly by the seat of your pants, you better expect turbulence. Author unknown

Motivational Minute- Communication, the human connection, is the key to personal and career success.” Paul J. Meyer

motivational minute- In order to get what you want you have to know what you want. Find your passion and set your goals!

Motivational Minute- Blowing out someone’s candle doesn’t make your’s shine any brighter.

Motivational Minute of the day! A goal without a plan is just a wish~ Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Successful people understand the difference between can’t and won’t.  There is a lot of power in words.  They can strengthen and empower us.  They can build an army or start a war.  Think about the words you use to describe yourself, and what you are capable of.  Do your words say victim or victor?

Think about the words can’t and won’t.  How often do you say I can’t when you really mean won’t?  Can’t means that you are physically not capable while won’t means that you are choosing not to. 

I can’t go up to a perfect stranger and introduce myself.  Yes you can. You are physically capable of walking up to someone, sticking out your hand and saying “Hi, I’m Sharmen Lane, what’s your name?”  Many will say, “I can’t do that.”  Yes you can.  You may have to dig deep and find the courage in you, but you are physically capable of it.

In business or your personal life the words you use can make a powerful statement.  I once had a woman in sales tell me she couldn’t walk in to potential client offices and ask them for business.  That’s when it dawned on me that there is a tremendous difference between can’t and won’t.  I responded to this woman with “You can’t. So you are telling me that you are not physically capable of walking to the door, sticking out your hand, grabbing the knob, turning it, pulling the door open and walking through the opening?’ Of course with resistance she replied with “Well, yes I can do THAT”.  That is the difference between can’t and won’t.

This isn’t to say it will be easy.  It may be difficult.  It may require some extreme mental discipline, or having a talk with yourself to make you do something you previously “couldn’t”.  I never said it was easy, and sometimes you will have to psych your self up and literally force yourself do it. But you can. As soon as you take responsibility and the empowering position you will be amazed at the things you can and will do.

The next time you hear yourself saying "I can’t…” stop for a moment and ask yourself, it is really that I can’t, that I’m physically not capable, or is it that I won’t?  If you determine that you could but you choose not too then it’s wont.  At that point you can choose to change your way of thinking, step up to the plate and do it!

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by Success Expert Sharmen Lane

Not long ago I was speaking to an author.  I had noticed that she had an endorsement from Deepak Chopra on the cover of her book.  I was surprised and impressed, and was curious how she managed to get an endorsement from the one and only Deepak Chopra.  A few days later, curiosity got the best of me, and I called her and said, “How did you get Deepak Chopra to write you an endorsement?”  She replied, “I wrote him an email and asked him for it.” 

Is it really that simple?  After all, there is the old adage "ask, and you shall receive”.  This got me to thinking.  Why don’t more people ask for what they want?  I mean if you ask for something, and you don’t get it, you are no worse off than you already are right?  Look at children.  They have no problem asking for what they want.  Even if they don’t get it, many times they will continue to ask until they do. 

This sent me on a new mission.  As an author, motivational speaker and radio host, I could really gain a lot by just asking for what I want.  Now, I had always been pretty good about going out and getting what I wanted or making what I wanted happen, but it never occurred to me to ask someone else to give me something I wanted.  First stop, endorsement for my book.  Who do I admire and respect, and would like to have endorsement from?  Brian Tracy.  I went to his website and find his email address and sent him a request for an endorsement.  A week or so later, he replied with “yes, It’d be my pleasure to endorse your book.  Please see below.”  Hhmmmm. Maybe getting what you want is as simple as asking for it.

A few nights later, I got an email advertising a new workshop by Michael Gerber, author of The E Myth.   “I bet he would be a great interview”, I thought.   I went to his website found his email address and asked him for an interview on my radio show, Success Made Simple on webtalkradio.net.  Then, days later, I was watching A Big Idea with Donny Deutsch on CNBC.  One of the guests was Michael Port, author of Book Yourself Solid and Beyond Booked Solid. This again led me to think, he has great information that listeners on Success Made Simple would find valuable.  Yet again, I went to his website and asked for an interview.  And yet again, he said yes.

How could I have gone my entire adult life and not realize how easy it was to not only ask for the things I wanted, but actually get them?  Now, people started asking me, “How did you get Michael Gerber on your show?” or “Wow, Brian Tracy endorsed your book.  How’d you get that?” Of course now it was my turn to say, I asked for it.

Think about the things you want it your life.  Do you want a raise, or different behavior from your spouse or children?  Do you want extra dressing for your salad at dinner? Do you want a new bike for Christmas?  Think about the things you want in your life and ask yourself if you don’t have them because you haven’t asked for them.

Moral of this story is, ask for what you want.  No matter what it is.  If you are told no then you’re not any worse off than you already are.  You don’t have what you want or need now, but if you ask for it you may just get it. Either way, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

What are you waiting for?  Just ask.

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