Sharmen Lane, motivational speaker and coach teaches kids not to emulate some celebrities behavior. School age kids can be confused when celebrities like Charlie Sheen and Lindsay Lohan repeatedly end up in the media for bad behavior. Celebrities getting attention for illegal acts, drug use, and arrests sends the message to kids that these behaviors are acceptable. At every stage of growth and development children need to be reminded that choices have consequences. Lane teaches kids of all ages how to meet goals, and the detriments of poor choices.

San Francisco, CA (PRWEB) February 13, 2011

Sharmen Lane, motivational speaker and author of Giving You The Wow and The How warns college student audiences about emulating celebrity behavior.

“For instance, Lindsay Lohan, recently out of rehab, and now under investigation for theft may, at some point, begin to understand that poor choices can have dire consequences, but being treated like celebrity royalty does not help our kids to make good and safe choices,” explains Lane, who teaches accountability in her motivational seminars.

“As long as celebrities are treated differently than others, it is common for these select few to have a sense of entitlement, which is how Tiger Woods, upon reflection, described his justification for living a double life—cheating on his wife,” Lane adds. “It is our responsibility to stop enabling celebrity behavior by reinforcing it with attention. It confuses kids when celebrities get away with behavior the rest of society is punished for.”

Historically many celebrities, professional athletes, and leaders have held themselves to a lower moral standard than is expected from the average citizen. “We have a responsibility to our culture, our children, and celebrity figures to make everyone consistently accountable, regardless of their social, prestige, or financial status,” explains Lane, a life coach.

Studies have shown that reinforcing positive behavior is a more powerful teaching tool than punishing poor behavior (http://allpsych.com/psychology101/reinforcement.html and http://www.nationalyouth.com/behaviormodification.html). “However, we must stop confusing our kids by adulating, following and spotlighting morally wrong and/or illegal behavior by celebrity figures,” Lane adds.

Lane recently spoke to college students at Northeastern University teaching the principles and connections between choices and consequences. “The students responded favorably and thanked me for helping them learn how to make better choices in their future,” relays Lane, who is an advocate for schools incorporating programs for kids in all age groups to teach the benefits of positive behavior and the consequences of choosing poor actions—in part as an antidote to extensive media coverage of decadent celebrity conduct.

“If Lindsay Lohan, Charlie Sheen, or any other celebrity who acts out is consistently rewarded for their poor behavior with the attention they crave, we are doing them, and our impressionable children a moral injustice,” Lane warns.

Sharmen Lane is available for speaking on motivation, goals, choices and consequences to all age groups. Lane is most passionate about teaching high school to college- aged groups.

Sharmen Lane, author of Giving you The Wow and The How, is a motivational speaker, life coach, and a radio show host.

Shar has been interviewed on Lifetime TV, NPR, New York Daily News, BusinessWeek, and many others. She has written articles for National Magazines and has spoken for several large companies, corporations, high schools, colleges, charities and non-profit organizations throughout the world.

As a motivational speaker, Sharmen Lane has trained, managed, and coached thousands of individuals on what it takes to get what they want. For information visit http://www.sharspeaks.com

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Sharmen Lane, Author of Giving You the Wow and The How, teaches the strategies she used personally to go from being a manicurist to becoming a millioinaire. The process starts with accountability, not making excuses, and taking responsibility for choices.

San Francisco, CA (PRWEB) December 22, 2010

Sharmen Lane, author of Giving You the Wow and the How reprimands celebrities who blame others or their past for their poor behavior. From the antics of Charlie Sheen and Mel Gibson, Lane observes: “Blaming bad decisions on others doesn’t solve problems. While some people seek help to overcome issues that get in the way of jobs and relationships, others blame their current job or relationship. This is victim thinking. We all have choices.” Lane knows how to survive tough circumstances. It took thirteen years to work her way through college, she was a child of multiple divorces, and worked her way up from a career as a manicurist to become a millionaire. The skills used to create wealth from poverty are life skills Lane teaches others through her coaching practice and her book.

“So many people are stuck, and don’t understand the steps needed to reach their goals. As we begin a new year, there will be many people writing new years resolutions. Most will fail. Here is a tip I call ‘verbal vomit’: Make a list of things that cause unhappiness. Match that list with favorable replacements. Most people list their grievances, but don’t visualize a solution.

“I know we are often told to make a gratitude list when we are feeling lack in our lives. But, there is an essential step missing when people shift from complaining about problems, to making a happy list. They need to stick with their place of unhappiness and look for doable solutions using skills I teach through the formula I developed from my own experiences.”

Sharmen Lane is a motivational speaker, author of Giving You the Wow and the How, and a coach helping others meet their goals through her proven strategies. Sharmen offers seminars, keynote speeches and workshops that create change by providing the process tools, and action plans to achieve success. Sharmen has been featured in Businessweek, New York Daily News, Fox News Channel, Lifetime TV, Hollywood Confidential with Leeza Gibbons, Women’s Day, Glamour, and Self magazine. Visit Sharmen at http://www.sharspeaks.com

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How often do you say, “I didn’t have a choice” or “I don’t  have a choice?” If you start to pay attention to the words you say I would bet it’s more often than you think. What would you say if I told you that no matter what, you ALWAYS have a choice? 

I think it is incredibly empowering to look inside yourself and say, this was my choice.  Then you can accept your situation and make better choices to improve it.

Robert F. Bennett the US Senator for the Utah said, “Your life is the sum result of all the choices you make, both consciously and unconsciously. If you can control the process of choosing, you can take control of all aspects of your life.  You can find the freedom that comes from being in charge of yourself.”

As long as you think you don’t have a choice you will be taking or maintaining a victim position.  If you don’t have a choice, then you can’t do anything about your situation and that includes improve it.

Let’s use and extreme example of a situation where one might say they had no choice. Let’s say you’re walking down the street, when someone grabs you and holds a gun to your head. They say give me your wallet.  You hand over wallet and the thief runs off.  Did you have a choice when you handed over your wallet?  The answer is yes, you did have a choice.  I’m not saying you had a bunch of good choices, but you still did have at least two.  One was hand over your wallet.  The other was not hand over your wallet.  Now of course you are probably thinking yes but if I would have not handed over my wallet, I could have been shot or killed.  And, you know what, you’re right.  However, you still had a choice.  You chose to hand over your wallet and live versus keeping your wallet and possibly being shot or killed.  Give wallet live. Don’t give wallet, die. There were at least two choices.  Terrible choices, but choices nonetheless.

Why would we want to hold onto our belief that there is no choice?  Is it so that we can be the victim, so that it is not our fault that we are in the situation we are in?  Is it so that we have someone else to blame? 

We can’t change other people, but we can certainly change ourselves.  That’s a beautiful thing because when we accept that we do have a choice, we can change our own actions and become the person that we want to be.  Noone holds a gun to your head and says this is what you must believe. This is how you must act.  Even if someone was holding a gun to your head you still have a choice. 

The best thing about taking responsibility for your own situation and who and what and where you are in life is that when you do, you can change it.  And that is powerful. 

For more information please visit our website at www.sharspeaks.com email us at shar@sharspeaks.com or call our office at 888 582 0582.