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CPR…Choices and Personal Responsibility, by self help expert Sharmen Lane

Monday, July 7th, 2008

How often do you say, “I didn’t have a choice” or “I don’t have a choice?” If you start to pay attention to the words you say I would bet it’s more often than you think. What would you say if I told you that no matter what, you ALWAYS have a choice?

I think it is incredibly empowering to look inside yourself and say, this was my choice. Then you can accept your situation and make better choices to improve it.

Robert F. Bennett the US Senator for the Utah said, “Your life is the sum result of all the choices you make, both consciously and unconsciously. If you can control the process of choosing, you can take control of all aspects of your life. You can find the freedom that comes from being in charge of yourself.”

As long as you think you don’t have a choice you will be taking or maintaining a victim position. If you don’t have a choice, then you can’t do anything about your situation and that includes improve it.

Let’s use and extreme example of a situation where one might say they had no choice. Let’s say you’re walking down the street, when someone grabs you and holds a gun to your head. They say give me your wallet. You hand over wallet and the thief runs off. Did you have a choice when you handed over your wallet? The answer is yes, you did have a choice. I’m not saying you had a bunch of good choices, but you still did have at least two. One was hand over your wallet. The other was not hand over your wallet. Now of course you are probably thinking yes but if I would have not handed over my wallet, I could have been shot or killed. And, you know what, you’re right. However, you still had a choice. You chose to hand over your wallet and live versus keeping your wallet and possibly being shot or killed. Give wallet live. Don’t give wallet, die. There were at least two choices. Terrible choices, but choices nonetheless.

Why would we want to hold onto our belief that there is no choice? Is it so that we can be the victim, so that it is not our fault that we are in the situation we are in? Is it so that we have someone else to blame?

We can’t change other people, but we can certainly change ourselves. That’s a beautiful thing because when we accept that we do have a choice, we can change our own actions and become the person that we want to be. Noone holds a gun to your head and says this is what you must believe. This is how you must act. Even if someone was holding a gun to your head you still have a choice.

The best thing about taking responsibility for your own situation and who and what and where you are in life is that when you do, you can change it. And that is powerful.

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Four Steps to Feel Good

Monday, May 19th, 2008

By Motivational Speaker and Author Sharmen Lane

Who hasn’t heard of the Law of Attraction right? Most everyone in this day and age has because of the movie The Secret. The Law of Attraction has been around for centuries. I personally have known about and been practicing the Law of Attraction for over ten years.

There are many different ways to think about this universal law. Thoughts become things, what you think about, you bring about, what you send out is what you get back, like attracts like, and many others. There is a fantastic book titled “Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting,” by Lynn Grabhorn. It really gives an easy and simple approach to understanding and using the Law of Attraction.

In a nutshell, feelings have vibrational frequencies. Good, happy feelings have high vibrations, bad feelings have low vibrations. Have you ever had a day that started off badly and continued to “snowball?” Most of us have. However, the opposite can be true as well. Surely, if you think hard enough you can remember a time that a day started off terrible and quickly shifted to be the most extraordinary day. Likelihood is the day that started off badly, you didn’t let it get to you and you maintained a positive disposition, allowing the day to end up great.

So, what can you do to keep the good vibes flowing even when bad things happen? That’s a great question. We all have something that makes us happy or feel good. What is it for you? Take a moment to think about all the things that make you happy. Do you have a song that you love, a childhood memory, an adult memory, a picture that just makes you smile when you look at it? All these are things that you can use as tools to pick you up when you are feeling down. That will change the vibrations that you are sending out, thereby allowing good vibrations to come back.

Here is a four step process help you choose to change your feelings and attract what you want into your life.

1. Observe your current situation and identify how you feel about it.

2. Now think about how you would like it do be different.

3. Next remember your happy thought. (Song, picture, memory, etc)

4. Think about what you want as if you already had it while feeling the good feelings of your happy thought.

This process will remind you to pay attention to how you are feeling and give you a way to focus your attention on what you do want instead of what you don’t. The worst case scenario is, you will feel more positive simple because you are thinking of something that makes you happy.

Change your thoughts, change your mind. ~ Wayne Dyer

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