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Today’s show Sharmen discusses the value of going with the flow and letting things fall into place. Many times the best things just seem to happen to us. Versus the opposite, forcing something to happen and no matter what we do it just doesn’t work out right. Today we are going to give you some signs and solutions to help you flow into success versus the stress of forcing what may not be meant to be.
By Sharmen Lane Self Improvement and Success Expert
How often do we put off until tomorrow what can be done today? You know you should clean out the closet, or study for the test or prepare your will or trust.However, you find a gamut of other things to do instead.There are many reasons that we as human beings procrastinate. Here are the most common.
1.Anxiety.Do you have anxiety about what needs to be done and that is why you are putting it off?Typically anxiety is directly related to the beginning or the ending of a task.That’s usually because what needs to be done, seems overwhelming or frightening.How many times do you put off doing your taxes?Is that because the actual process of doing your taxes is too challenging or too difficult?Another good example is situations like having an elderly parent knowing there are certain things that need to be dealt with and you really don’t want to face it. It’s something you’d rather push back to the dark corners of your closet and not deal with it.But rarely, does this work in our favor.
2.Failure.Another reason people procrastinate.Are you not doing what you know you should do because you expect you may fail?Is it safer and easier to say you didn’t get what you want because you didn’t try? What’s the alternative?To say you didn’t get what you want because you did try but failed?I believe that it’s better to have tried and failed than to never have tried at all.Don’t you waste more mental energy thinking about doing something as opposed to just doing it?
3.Success. Yet another reason people procrastinate. Many will not do what they are capable of doing because they know it will result in success.Success is heavy and carries a responsibility with it.Are you nervous or unsure about the responsibilities you will have if you reach your goal?Is the reason you aren’t taking action?
4.Perfectionist.Perfectionists tend to take no action if they can’t do it perfectly.I have seen people who have absolutely disaster-ous home improvement projects both inside and outside that haven’t been finished.So the inside of their kitchen may be half ripped out and not functioning but they won’t do anything to fix it until they have the plans just perfect, down to every last detail.This makes no sense to me.Why would you rather live in complete and total chaos than make the situation decent and livable?
5.Resistance.Yet one more reason people put off what needs to done.If you are being required to do something that you do not want to do or do not see the value in, you may put it off until the very last possible moment or permanently if you can get away with it. Many times with school or work you have to do things you really don’t want to do. You have to take prerequisite classes for school or you have to sit through an HR presentation at work even though you have been there for 10 + years and never had an HR problem.You don’t want to do any of these things. They are annoying nagging things you need to do, but you put them off because there are plenty of things you want to do that are far more appealing.
The most common denominator here is fear. Pushing it off or procrastinating is only going to make matters worse.If there are consequences to something those consequences are still going to be there when you finally get around to facing them and they will likely get worse the longer you put it off. Ask yourself, “What am I afraid of,” and then deal with it.Many times, if not always, things are worse in our head than reality ever turns out to be.Just be honest and admit the fear, deal with it, get past it and step up and live your life NOW!!!If something doesn’t work out the way you want it to, it’s ok, you can now move on to something else.
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by Self Help Expert Sharmen Lane Almost everything we do in life is a choice.To get out of bed in the morning is a choice. To go to work and do your job and pay your rent and take chances and risks, are all choices.To eat unhealthy foods knowing you will gain weight and increase fat and cholesterol and your risk for heart disease are all choices.To get married, or stay in an unhappy marriage or have children, again all these things are our choices. Every choice has a consequence.Sometimes the consequences are good, sometimes they’re not.Either way, there is always a choice and a consequence that goes along with it.In my own personal opinion it is quite empowering to realize and exercise your ability to choose. That’s a whole lot better than leaving your life or your successes to chance.I would rather ensure my success by making better choices than leaving my life, my opportunities and my success up to a roll of the dice.How often do you hear someone say, “I didn’t have a choice”?As awful as the options may be, there is always a choice.If you choose to go out with friends or colleagues when you know you should be preparing for a test or a presentation that is your choice.If you don’t pass the test, or you don’t do as well as you know you were capable of on the presentation you will know you really have no one to blame but yourself.That’s called taking responsibility for our actions. Every choice moves us closer to or farther away from something.Where are your choices leading your life?When you are facing a challenge or an opportunity ask yourself, “Is this going to bring me closer to or farther away from what I want?”And then depending on your answer, you choose.
Sometimes you will have to choose between two crummy options.Even though both of the options are terrible, there is still a choice.Not choosing is choosing. If you want better things, you have to make better choices. If you want more money you have to make choices that will provide you with more money.If you want a better relationship, you have to make choices that encourage a better relationship.
Here’s a little tool to help you out.I’ve developed a little fast and simple process that will help you to evaluate any situation and make better choices.With better choices we make better more enriched lives for ourselves.Ask yourself, "if I do X what will be the consequences, both good and bad?"It’s almost the same as doing a pros and cons list.Most people don’t stop and think.They just do.If you can create a new habit of stopping whatever you are doing and simple ask, what are the consequences if I make this choice?You will make better decisions and create a better life for yourself. Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.Wayne Dyer
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