Does getting what you want have to be difficult?Maybe.Maybe not.What if there is a way, a process, to help you get what you want?
I call this the power process.It takes you from where you are to where you want to be in four simple steps.
Step One. Define your current reality.Where are you right now? All emotion, logistics, facts and feelings, write them down.Be specific.For example, “I hate my life, everything about it, I hate.I’m broke, I’m tired, I’m cranky, I’m alone and I feel lost, I feel old, I feel ugly.I don’t know what to do I just know that this is not what I want." Write down all the details of your life that you are currently unhappy with.
Step Two.Identify what you do want.Keeping emotion out of it just write down all the things you want to be, do or have.If you could write the book describing your perfect life what would it look like? What things would you have? Where would you go? What would you do?This is your blank slate and you can draw the picture of the life you want.
Step Three.In a one line clear, concise statement describe your life as in step two.Keep it short, clear and to the point. Something like “I am a happy, relaxed and comfortable person earning an income of at least $10K per month, and good things simply flow to me with ease”
Step Four. Say or write “I emotionally accept and willingly allow the reality that (insert your one line description here, as in step 3).
This four step process will identify what you are unhappy with, clarify what you want in its place, make the statement to the universe and allow you to do determine if you are truly willing and ready to accept it.
I have used this process thousands of times in my life and have seen it work miracles in others lives as well.Don’t delay, start today to go from where you are now to WoW!
Stay in the moment. Stress is created by reflection or projection. This moment is the only one that matters. Success is Simple. Use your time wisely by maximizing and utilizing every possible moment to work towards your goal. Now is how to get what you want and live stress free.
Ever wonder why some people seem to get what they want easily and effortlessly?There are some tried and true techniques to getting what you want.This process is what I call the 3 C’s to Succcess.
#1 Commit.Are you committed to the outcome?What is the desired result that you are looking for ?If you aren’t clear about what you are looking to achieve you certainly aren’t committed to it.
Think of a commitment like a legal binding agreement.If you sign on the dotted line and are legally bound, are you likely to back out or not fulfill your end of the agreement? Probably not.If you take that approach to any goal you are setting you are 90% there.If you are committed to losing weight and sign a contract saying you will weigh ten pounds less than you do now at the end of 60 days, or there will be a $10,000 fine, do you think you will find a way to be ten pounds less?My guess is yes.Why does there need to be a $10K fine?Simply view your goal as a contract, even if it’s only with yourself.Once you get committed the rest is downhill.
#2 Communicate.People who are committed to reaching their goal, share that goal with others.The tell anyone who will listen. They would shout it from the rooftops and take out a full page ad in the New York Times.Why is that?Because the more people you tell, the more real it becomes. If you tell one person about your goal and the person next to you tells 100 people, who’s got more at stake?Obviously, the person who told more people has more to lose.So the more ways you communicate (write, read, talk, listen, etc) and the more you communicate it to, the closer you will be to your goal.
#3 Create.Once you have decided that you are truly committed to your goal, and you have written it down and read it out loud, and shared it with others all you have to do now is take action .This is the easiest of the three steps.It’s easy to do when you are committed and have told everyone you know about what you are working towards. The most important thing is to “do”.Do something that is actively working towards your goal every day. Before you know it, you will have what you want and will have created your dream to make it a reality.
Follow the 3 C’s to Success.It’s a simple tried and true process that will help you reach your desired goal faster and easier than you ever thought possible.
There are three elements of time. Past, Present and Future, and we will be discussing the importance of all three of them. You may be thinking “what about time management?” We will absolutely be discussing the value of time management and how to get the most out of your 24 hour day.
How often do you say, “I didn’t have a choice” or “I don’thave a choice?” If you start to pay attention to the words you say I would bet it’s more often than you think. What would you say if I told you that no matter what, you ALWAYS have a choice?
I think it is incredibly empowering to look inside yourself and say, this was my choice.Then you can accept your situation and make better choices to improve it.
Robert F. Bennett the US Senator for the Utah said, “Your life is the sum result of all the choices you make, both consciously and unconsciously. If you can control the process of choosing, you can take control of all aspects of your life.You can find the freedom that comes from being in charge of yourself.”
As long as you think you don’t have a choice you will be taking or maintaining a victim position.If you don’t have a choice, then you can’t do anything about your situation and that includes improve it.
Let’s use and extreme example of a situation where one might say they had no choice. Let’s say you’re walking down the street, when someone grabs you and holds a gun to your head. They say give me your wallet.You hand over wallet and the thief runs off. Did you have a choice when you handed over your wallet?The answer is yes, you did have a choice.I’m not saying you had a bunch of good choices, but you still did have at least two.One was hand over your wallet.The other was not hand over your wallet.Now of course you are probably thinking yes but if I would have not handed over my wallet, I could have been shot or killed.And, you know what, you’re right.However, you still had a choice.You chose to hand over your wallet and live versus keeping your wallet and possibly being shot or killed.Give wallet live. Don’t give wallet, die. There were at least two choices.Terrible choices, but choices nonetheless.
Why would we want to hold onto our belief that there is no choice?Is it so that we can be the victim, so that it is not our fault that we are in the situation we are in?Is it so that we have someone else to blame?
We can’t change other people, but we can certainly change ourselves.That’s a beautiful thing because when we accept that we do have a choice, we can change our own actions and become the person that we want to be.Noone holds a gun to your head and says this is what you must believe. This is how you must act.Even if someone was holding a gun to your head you still have a choice.
The best thing about taking responsibility for your own situation and who and what and where you are in life is that when you do, you can change it.And that is powerful.
In my humble opinion, I think there are three key elements to achieving success in business.Those 3 elements can be described in what I call the GPS system. Just like a navigational system you would use in your car to get you from where you are to where you want to be, the GPS for Success System can do the same thing.
·G- Goals. You have to know what you want in order to get what you want.Write down the end result, the thing at the end of the road that you want to obtain or achieve.Is it a promotion, a new job, or a contest you want to win?Whatever it is, write it down. This makes it clear to you and those around you exactly what you are working towards.
·P- Plan. A goal without a plan is just a wish.Just because you know what you want, does not ensure you are going to get it.That takes planning. Break down your goal into the steps you need to take in order to achieve or obtain the end result. Many times the end result or the process to get where we want to be, is enough to stop us in our tracks and we end up not taking any action at all. That is why I teach the dicing method. You break down the goal into tiny, bite size steps so that no one step is overwhelming or intimidating.
As an example, if you have a large goal that you are looking to accomplish by the end of the year, all the details to make that happen may seem like just too much to deal with, and you may give up before you even start. However, if at the very moment you set the goal, you immediately go into planning mode and break down that one year goal into 12 steps (one for each month), then break each of the 12 into 4 steps (one for each week of the month), then break the 4 into 7(one step for each day of the week), you will have a plan that makes your goal a lot easier to accomplish.
·S- Surmount Fear. We all have some kind of fear that gets in the way of getting what we say we want. Doesn’t mean we don’t want it, just means things get in our way. One of those “things” is fear. There are two types of fear. Pretty simple, real fear and fake fear. What’s the difference? Real fear can cause physical harm or death. Fake fear only exists in your head. So why is it that something that only exists in our heads, prevents us from taking action to get what we want? Perception.
Our perception of fear is what holds us back, not the fear itself. When it comes to a fake fear, like rejection, it is the projection of what MIGHT happen that stops us in our tracks. But let me ask you, even if what you thought might happen did happen are you any worse off than you were to begin with? If you are afraid to ask your boss for a raise because he or she might say no, let me ask you this. If he/she does say no are you any worse off than you started? No! So what do you have to lose? NOTHING!
Another example, there is a person you are interested in dating. You see them but you don’t approach them. Why not? They might say no, they might say go away, they might say not if you were the last person on earth and if it was up to you and he/she to continue the human race…NO, God would just have to find another way. Now, call me crazy, but I say so what. So what if they say that. Whatever they say will not cause me physical harm or death so what do I have to lose… NOTHING!
Let me ask you this. Let’s say you were rejected, turned down cold. Wouldn’t you rather know that this person is clearly not for you for a multitude of reasons than spend your life wondering what would have happened if? Anytime I have been turned down for anything, whether it be a date, or a job, or a raise, or anything, I know. I don’t wonder what would have happened if. I know. That to me is living a life of no regrets, no what if’s?
So that is my secret to success, three simple steps, GPS. You can accomplish anything if you just set a goal, make a plan and surmount fear. Sharmen Lane
