Episode description: More and more companies are cutting back and laying off. Google, Yahoo and the Big 3… Ford, Chrysler and GM places we never thought would have issues are having big issues. So now more than ever people are changing careers and our expert guest Patty DeDominic of DeDominic and Associates is going to give you the tools to make the best career change for you so you can have a new career and life you want.
Today we are going to answer some of the most commonly asked questions that have been asked y email or mail but have not been answered on the air. We figured if one person is willing to write in about it, there are likely manymore of you that have the same question and just haven’t asked it for one reason or another. So, sit back, relax and listen for the answer to your question.
Today we are going to have a lesson in CPR. Choices and Personal Responsibility. I think this time of year is great for looking over the past year, evaluating it and determining what we like and dislike about who, what, and where we are and how our choices got us there. The best way to make a change is to take personal responsibility for where we are and how we got there. If you change your choices, you change your life.
What do you call success?Is it money, status, title, or possessions? Or perhaps it’s being a good parent, or spouse, or daughter or son.Success is different for everyone.No matter how you define it, it’s important to be clear and achieve it.
Everything you do if you want to do it well, you must be consistent. Practice Makes Perfect…that is only partly true. Vince Lombardi says only perfect practice makes perfect. If you want to be good or great at anything you must be consistent!
Does getting what you want have to be difficult?Maybe.Maybe not.What if there is a way, a process, to help you get what you want?
I call this the power process.It takes you from where you are to where you want to be in four simple steps.
Step One. Define your current reality.Where are you right now? All emotion, logistics, facts and feelings, write them down.Be specific.For example, “I hate my life, everything about it, I hate.I’m broke, I’m tired, I’m cranky, I’m alone and I feel lost, I feel old, I feel ugly.I don’t know what to do I just know that this is not what I want." Write down all the details of your life that you are currently unhappy with.
Step Two.Identify what you do want.Keeping emotion out of it just write down all the things you want to be, do or have.If you could write the book describing your perfect life what would it look like? What things would you have? Where would you go? What would you do?This is your blank slate and you can draw the picture of the life you want.
Step Three.In a one line clear, concise statement describe your life as in step two.Keep it short, clear and to the point. Something like “I am a happy, relaxed and comfortable person earning an income of at least $10K per month, and good things simply flow to me with ease”
Step Four. Say or write “I emotionally accept and willingly allow the reality that (insert your one line description here, as in step 3).
This four step process will identify what you are unhappy with, clarify what you want in its place, make the statement to the universe and allow you to do determine if you are truly willing and ready to accept it.
I have used this process thousands of times in my life and have seen it work miracles in others lives as well.Don’t delay, start today to go from where you are now to WoW!
Stay in the moment. Stress is created by reflection or projection. This moment is the only one that matters. Success is Simple. Use your time wisely by maximizing and utilizing every possible moment to work towards your goal. Now is how to get what you want and live stress free.
Ever wonder why some people seem to get what they want easily and effortlessly?There are some tried and true techniques to getting what you want.This process is what I call the 3 C’s to Succcess.
#1 Commit.Are you committed to the outcome?What is the desired result that you are looking for ?If you aren’t clear about what you are looking to achieve you certainly aren’t committed to it.
Think of a commitment like a legal binding agreement.If you sign on the dotted line and are legally bound, are you likely to back out or not fulfill your end of the agreement? Probably not.If you take that approach to any goal you are setting you are 90% there.If you are committed to losing weight and sign a contract saying you will weigh ten pounds less than you do now at the end of 60 days, or there will be a $10,000 fine, do you think you will find a way to be ten pounds less?My guess is yes.Why does there need to be a $10K fine?Simply view your goal as a contract, even if it’s only with yourself.Once you get committed the rest is downhill.
#2 Communicate.People who are committed to reaching their goal, share that goal with others.The tell anyone who will listen. They would shout it from the rooftops and take out a full page ad in the New York Times.Why is that?Because the more people you tell, the more real it becomes. If you tell one person about your goal and the person next to you tells 100 people, who’s got more at stake?Obviously, the person who told more people has more to lose.So the more ways you communicate (write, read, talk, listen, etc) and the more you communicate it to, the closer you will be to your goal.
#3 Create.Once you have decided that you are truly committed to your goal, and you have written it down and read it out loud, and shared it with others all you have to do now is take action .This is the easiest of the three steps.It’s easy to do when you are committed and have told everyone you know about what you are working towards. The most important thing is to “do”.Do something that is actively working towards your goal every day. Before you know it, you will have what you want and will have created your dream to make it a reality.
Follow the 3 C’s to Success.It’s a simple tried and true process that will help you reach your desired goal faster and easier than you ever thought possible.
There are three elements of time. Past, Present and Future, and we will be discussing the importance of all three of them. You may be thinking “what about time management?” We will absolutely be discussing the value of time management and how to get the most out of your 24 hour day.
How often do you say, “I didn’t have a choice” or “I don’thave a choice?” If you start to pay attention to the words you say I would bet it’s more often than you think. What would you say if I told you that no matter what, you ALWAYS have a choice?
I think it is incredibly empowering to look inside yourself and say, this was my choice.Then you can accept your situation and make better choices to improve it.
Robert F. Bennett the US Senator for the Utah said, “Your life is the sum result of all the choices you make, both consciously and unconsciously. If you can control the process of choosing, you can take control of all aspects of your life.You can find the freedom that comes from being in charge of yourself.”
As long as you think you don’t have a choice you will be taking or maintaining a victim position.If you don’t have a choice, then you can’t do anything about your situation and that includes improve it.
Let’s use and extreme example of a situation where one might say they had no choice. Let’s say you’re walking down the street, when someone grabs you and holds a gun to your head. They say give me your wallet.You hand over wallet and the thief runs off. Did you have a choice when you handed over your wallet?The answer is yes, you did have a choice.I’m not saying you had a bunch of good choices, but you still did have at least two.One was hand over your wallet.The other was not hand over your wallet.Now of course you are probably thinking yes but if I would have not handed over my wallet, I could have been shot or killed.And, you know what, you’re right.However, you still had a choice.You chose to hand over your wallet and live versus keeping your wallet and possibly being shot or killed.Give wallet live. Don’t give wallet, die. There were at least two choices.Terrible choices, but choices nonetheless.
Why would we want to hold onto our belief that there is no choice?Is it so that we can be the victim, so that it is not our fault that we are in the situation we are in?Is it so that we have someone else to blame?
We can’t change other people, but we can certainly change ourselves.That’s a beautiful thing because when we accept that we do have a choice, we can change our own actions and become the person that we want to be.Noone holds a gun to your head and says this is what you must believe. This is how you must act.Even if someone was holding a gun to your head you still have a choice.
The best thing about taking responsibility for your own situation and who and what and where you are in life is that when you do, you can change it.And that is powerful.
