Tough Times Create Tough People
Friday, December 19th, 2008By Motivational Speaker and Success Expert Sharmen Lane
Guest:Ethan Ewing and Kim Kiyosaki
Topic: Tough Times Create Tough People
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By Motivational Speaker and Success Expert Sharmen Lane
Guest:Ethan Ewing and Kim Kiyosaki
Topic: Tough Times Create Tough People
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by Success Expert Sharmen Lane
Not long ago I was speaking to an author. I had noticed that she had an endorsement from Deepak Chopra on the cover of her book. I was surprised and impressed, and was curious how she managed to get an endorsement from the one and only Deepak Chopra. A few days later, curiosity got the best of me, and I called her and said, “How did you get Deepak Chopra to write you an endorsement?” She replied, “I wrote him an email and asked him for it.”
Is it really that simple? After all, there is the old adage "ask, and you shall receive”. This got me to thinking. Why don’t more people ask for what they want? I mean if you ask for something, and you don’t get it, you are no worse off than you already are right? Look at children. They have no problem asking for what they want. Even if they don’t get it, many times they will continue to ask until they do.
This sent me on a new mission. As an author, motivational speaker and radio host, I could really gain a lot by just asking for what I want. Now, I had always been pretty good about going out and getting what I wanted or making what I wanted happen, but it never occurred to me to ask someone else to give me something I wanted. First stop, endorsement for my book. Who do I admire and respect, and would like to have endorsement from? Brian Tracy. I went to his website and find his email address and sent him a request for an endorsement. A week or so later, he replied with “yes, It’d be my pleasure to endorse your book. Please see below.” Hhmmmm. Maybe getting what you want is as simple as asking for it.
A few nights later, I got an email advertising a new workshop by Michael Gerber, author of The E Myth. “I bet he would be a great interview”, I thought. I went to his website found his email address and asked him for an interview on my radio show, Success Made Simple on webtalkradio.net. Then, days later, I was watching A Big Idea with Donny Deutsch on CNBC. One of the guests was Michael Port, author of Book Yourself Solid and Beyond Booked Solid. This again led me to think, he has great information that listeners on Success Made Simple would find valuable. Yet again, I went to his website and asked for an interview. And yet again, he said yes.
How could I have gone my entire adult life and not realize how easy it was to not only ask for the things I wanted, but actually get them? Now, people started asking me, “How did you get Michael Gerber on your show?” or “Wow, Brian Tracy endorsed your book. How’d you get that?” Of course now it was my turn to say, I asked for it.
Think about the things you want it your life. Do you want a raise, or different behavior from your spouse or children? Do you want extra dressing for your salad at dinner? Do you want a new bike for Christmas? Think about the things you want in your life and ask yourself if you don’t have them because you haven’t asked for them.
Moral of this story is, ask for what you want. No matter what it is. If you are told no then you’re not any worse off than you already are. You don’t have what you want or need now, but if you ask for it you may just get it. Either way, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
What are you waiting for? Just ask.
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Today’s show Sharmen discusses the value of going with the flow and letting things fall into place. Many times the best things just seem to happen to us. Versus the opposite, forcing something to happen and no matter what we do it just doesn’t work out right. Today we are going to give you some signs and solutions to help you flow into success versus the stress of forcing what may not be meant to be.
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Sometimes you will have to choose between two crummy options. Even though both of the options are terrible, there is still a choice. Not choosing is choosing. If you want better things, you have to make better choices. If you want more money you have to make choices that will provide you with more money. If you want a better relationship, you have to make choices that encourage a better relationship.
Here’s a little tool to help you out. I’ve developed a little fast and simple process that will help you to evaluate any situation and make better choices. With better choices we make better more enriched lives for ourselves. Ask yourself, "if I do X what will be the consequences, both good and bad?" It’s almost the same as doing a pros and cons list.
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