Successful people understand the difference between can’t and won’t.  There is a lot of power in words.  They can strengthen and empower us.  They can build an army or start a war.  Think about the words you use to describe yourself, and what you are capable of.  Do your words say victim or victor?

Think about the words can’t and won’t.  How often do you say I can’t when you really mean won’t?  Can’t means that you are physically not capable while won’t means that you are choosing not to. 

I can’t go up to a perfect stranger and introduce myself.  Yes you can. You are physically capable of walking up to someone, sticking out your hand and saying “Hi, I’m Sharmen Lane, what’s your name?”  Many will say, “I can’t do that.”  Yes you can.  You may have to dig deep and find the courage in you, but you are physically capable of it.

In business or your personal life the words you use can make a powerful statement.  I once had a woman in sales tell me she couldn’t walk in to potential client offices and ask them for business.  That’s when it dawned on me that there is a tremendous difference between can’t and won’t.  I responded to this woman with “You can’t. So you are telling me that you are not physically capable of walking to the door, sticking out your hand, grabbing the knob, turning it, pulling the door open and walking through the opening?’ Of course with resistance she replied with “Well, yes I can do THAT”.  That is the difference between can’t and won’t.

This isn’t to say it will be easy.  It may be difficult.  It may require some extreme mental discipline, or having a talk with yourself to make you do something you previously “couldn’t”.  I never said it was easy, and sometimes you will have to psych your self up and literally force yourself do it. But you can. As soon as you take responsibility and the empowering position you will be amazed at the things you can and will do.

The next time you hear yourself saying "I can’t…” stop for a moment and ask yourself, it is really that I can’t, that I’m physically not capable, or is it that I won’t?  If you determine that you could but you choose not too then it’s wont.  At that point you can choose to change your way of thinking, step up to the plate and do it!

By Success Expert Sharmen Lane 

 

 Get It Going [56:04m]: Play Now | Play in Popup | Download

by Motivational Speaker and Author Sharmen Lane

This week we are going to be talking to Jessica Sabatini, a Results Coaching System Certified Life reDirection Expert.  She has designed The Prosper With Purpose System, a set of strategies based in neuroscience and metaphysics for bringing clarity to your life’s direction and purpose, laser blasting blocks that have been holding you back for years, tapping into your joy and flow of life, and making huge strides towards your beautifully ambitious life goals.  We will be showing you how to create a life of meaning, confidence, joy and success.

 

 Prosper with Purpose [55:19m]: Play Now | Play in Popup | Download

by Personal Growth Expert Sharmen Lane

By Success Expert Sharmen Lane, Motivational Speaker and Self Help Author.

We all have bad days. So I have written a little poem to pick you up when you are feeling blue.  I hope it puts a little spring in your step like it does for me.

By Success Expert Sharmen Lane

 

 What You Believe is What You'll Receive [55:01m]: Play Now | Play in Popup | Download

by Success Expert Sharmen Lane

Does getting what you want have to be difficult?  Maybe.   Maybe not.  What if there is a way, a process, to help you get what you want?

I call this the power process.  It takes you from where you are to where you want to be in four simple steps.

Step One. Define your current reality.  Where are you right now? All emotion, logistics, facts and feelings, write them down.  Be specific.  For example, “I hate my life, everything about it, I hate.  I’m broke, I’m tired, I’m cranky, I’m alone and I feel lost, I feel old, I feel ugly.  I don’t know what to do I just know that this is not what I want."  Write down all the details of your life that you are currently unhappy with.

Step Two. Identify what you do want.  Keeping emotion out of it just write down all the things you want to be, do or have.  If you could write the book describing your perfect life what would it look like? What things would you have? Where would you go? What would you do?  This is your blank slate and you can draw the picture of the life you want.

Step Three.  In a one line clear, concise statement describe your life as in step two.  Keep it short, clear and to the point. Something like “I am a happy, relaxed and comfortable person earning an income of at least $10K per month, and good things simply flow to me with ease”

Step Four. Say or write “I emotionally accept and willingly allow the reality that (insert your one line description here, as in step 3).

This four step process will identify what you are unhappy with, clarify what you want in its place, make the statement to the universe and allow you to do determine if you are truly willing and ready to accept it.

I have used this process thousands of times in my life and have seen it work miracles in others lives as well.  Don’t delay, start today to go from where you are now to WoW!

For more information visit www.sharspeaks.com

There are only two fears that exist. Real fears and fake fears. Most of us have fears about things that aren’t even real. Fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of success, etc. These are not real fears. They are imaginary things we make up in our heads about what would happen if.  In this episode you are given the tools to say farewell to fear!

 

 Farewell to Fear [55:03m]: Play Now | Play in Popup | Download

 by Success Expert Sharmen Lane

 

 Passion Equals Action [55:32m]: Play Now | Play in Popup | Download

The most important thing about a goal, is having one. Quotes from famous people, Oprah Winfrey, Tony Robbins, Donald Trump, Michael Jordan, etc. Explain the importance of having a goal using the information in the first chapter of my book The 7 Secrets to Create Your Fate. Successful people don’t just end of successful they first set a goal and then do the work to obtain or achieve it.

 

 Knowin Where your Goin [54:09m]: Play Now | Play in Popup | Download