What’s in your integrity?

By Sharmen Lane

A long time ago I heard someone describe integrity as “what you do when no one else watching.”  Ever since that day, that has been my interpretation of what integrity is.  Are you who you say you are?  Do you do as you say and say as you do?  Is who you are in public, who you are behind closed doors?

I read an article recently written by Holly Hill the Australian Sugarbabe, who wrote and is sharing her theory of Negotiated Infidelity.  It’s basically where a couple has an agreement to not be monogamous. It allows people to have a relationship with each other but have sex outside the relationship.  I found this concept to be fascinating because isn’t the purpose of being in a relationship to not be intimate with other people?  If you want to have sex with other people then why not just be single?

To me, negotiated infidelity would be out of integrity.  A romantic relationship is a romantic relationship because it’s monogamous.  However, other people clearly don’t feel the same.  But I do ask you, what’s in your integrity? What does the word mean to you and do you live by it?

Today we are living in a world where public figures like Tiger Woods, and Jesse James, cheat on their wives and blame it on sex addiction. Is it sex addiction or just poor judgment backed up by little personal integrity?  We live in a world where a Bernie Madoff pulls off a $50 billion ponzi scheme and multi-billion dollar companies go under because of fraud or misrepresentation. Entire industries are wiped out because of unscrupulous activities, and those activities are often carried out by the leaders themselves. Where is the integrity? If we raised our own personal level of integrity would these things still happen?

Where does integrity begin? Does it start with our government, our role models, our school system, our family, our spouse, or does it start with ourselves? To what standard do we hold ourselves? If each and every one of us has integrity and live by it and require it from those around us would those things still be happening in our world?

Let me leave you with this… what does integrity mean to you, and are you living up to it?

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MANICURIST TO MILLIONAIRE SHARES SIMPLE, SUCCESSFUL TOOLS THAT GUIDED HER NEW LIFE IN HER LATEST BOOK “GIVING YOU THE WOW AND THE HOW”
 
–Sharmen Lane’s transforming and relatable strategies help people make better choices, “moving from ordinary to extraordinary” –
 
     Los Angeles, CA –– A life path beginning in a highly dysfunctional family environment, moving from high school dropout to manicurist and eventually achieving self-made millionaire status sounds more like a Hollywood fairy tale but, as Sharmen Lane describes in her compelling new book, GIVING YOU THE WOW AND THE HOW, she made the transformation happen following the simplest principles of her own design drawn from her personal life experiences. The result is a stimulating “fix-it” chronicle that gives readers the tools to “get from where you are to where you want to be.”
            Her immensely readable life-changing narrative, subtitled  “44 Tips from the Millionaire Manicurist That Will Change Your Life Now” and published by Morgan James Publishing (February 24, 2010  $14.95), does more than recount a sad, unfulfilled early life populated by nine divorces among her parents, alcohol, bad choices and a host of other negatives that could have consumed her. Rather, Ms. Lane, highly-regarded motivational speaker, life coach, author and radio show host, shares with readers just how she focused on her passions, conquered fears and made choices that empowered her to create a dream lifestyle – all by using the tools she now makes accessible to everyone.
            The one-time manicurist making $20,000 a year describes through 44 straightforward tips how readers can, as she did, “power past” their fears and find a way out of an unfulfilling life. Ms. Lane offers practical examples of how to give a voice to individual passions to inspire growth, whether dealing with one’s personal relationships, professional life, educational aspirations or improved health.
            The book recounts simple principles evolved from Ms. Lane’s own experiences that guided her dramatic life changes — whether losing 30 pounds (and keeping it off), making more money than she ever imagined possible ($1.2 million a year before she was 30), running a marathon, retiring from corporate life at 34,  and even earning a college degree.
            Through dozens of simple exercises and lessons, innovative tools outlined in GIVING YOU THE WOW AND THE HOW include learning to break down your goals into manageable areas so that every goal, regardless of how complex, seems attainable. Readers also learn to use the power of their emotions, and controlling them, as tools for change, how to “knock out the negative,” how to control one’s feelings with the “Ten Second Rule,” conquering fear, teaching accountability, and how to make empowering choices.
            Chapter titles reveal the scope and unpretentious style of her narrative –“Take Your Talk for a Walk,” “Kick Your Fear in the Rear,” “What You Feel You Make Real,” “Putting Off Procrastination,” among them.
           About the Author:  Manicurist to millionaire Sharmen Lane is a widely recognized four- time author, motivational speaker, life coach and radio host (Now to Wow on 1230am WBLQ). She has been interviewed on Lifetime TV, NPR, New York Daily News, BusinessWeek, and many others. She has written articles for National Magazines and has spoken for several large companies, corporations, high schools, colleges, charities and non-profit organizations throughout the world. As a motivational speaker, she has trained, managed, and coached thousands of individuals on what it takes to get what they want.
            About the Publisher:  Morgan James has revolutionized book publishing - from the author’s standpoint. Their Entrepreneurial Publishing Model™ enriches authors as well as the company. Morgan James Publishing was selected by Publishers Weekly as the 3rd fastest growing publisher in tough times for 2009 for their leading creative thinking, significant accomplishments and stands to have a momentous impact on the industry for the next 10 years.

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by Success Expert Sharmen Lane

Does getting what you want have to be difficult?  Maybe.   Maybe not.  What if there is a way, a process, to help you get what you want?

I call this the power process.  It takes you from where you are to where you want to be in four simple steps.

Step One. Define your current reality.  Where are you right now? All emotion, logistics, facts and feelings, write them down.  Be specific.  For example, “I hate my life, everything about it, I hate.  I’m broke, I’m tired, I’m cranky, I’m alone and I feel lost, I feel old, I feel ugly.  I don’t know what to do I just know that this is not what I want."  Write down all the details of your life that you are currently unhappy with.

Step Two. Identify what you do want.  Keeping emotion out of it just write down all the things you want to be, do or have.  If you could write the book describing your perfect life what would it look like? What things would you have? Where would you go? What would you do?  This is your blank slate and you can draw the picture of the life you want.

Step Three.  In a one line clear, concise statement describe your life as in step two.  Keep it short, clear and to the point. Something like “I am a happy, relaxed and comfortable person earning an income of at least $10K per month, and good things simply flow to me with ease”

Step Four. Say or write “I emotionally accept and willingly allow the reality that (insert your one line description here, as in step 3).

This four step process will identify what you are unhappy with, clarify what you want in its place, make the statement to the universe and allow you to do determine if you are truly willing and ready to accept it.

I have used this process thousands of times in my life and have seen it work miracles in others lives as well.  Don’t delay, start today to go from where you are now to WoW!

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